He sounds like Hippocrates, ...at times!
One point that I touched on briefly in Appendix C p228 of my
Book “Chi-Reflexology : Guidelines for the Middle way” was Intention. This was
an afterthought that I had wished I had included as a Chapter in the body of
the book, as it is an area that I have increasingly become aware is a major
issue and has been rather neglected by most authors and presenters. To begin to
rectify this neglect, I have written the following.
The first point is that most therapists, including
reflexologists have only a vague and generalized idea of what their intentions
actually are. Generally it is a largely unconscious or subconscious concept
along the lines of doing “good’. What is “good”? It can have any meaning
whatsoever, from “good” being inflicting pain and suffering and doing a great
deal of harm, through to “it feels good and relaxing”; and everything
in-between.
It is my experience that very few therapists have ever
stopped and asked themselves some difficult questions. Not only what am I
doing, but why? Is it to heal? Is it to treat? To relax? To be responsible for
another’s health? To help? To harm? To ………
So the first step is for all therapists to ask themselves
these questions and many others. To begin to take responsibility for what they
do, how they do it and why they do it. You cannot do this if you have never
even considered your intentions. This is the reason that your intentions are so
paramount! They are the basis or premise upon which all that you do as a
therapist is based. If you do not know, recognize and acknowledge your
intentions very specifically, how can you be responsible for what you do and
don’t do?
This is the beginning. Next many therapists, including
reflexologists, argue that it is your intent that is the most important and
that as long as your intent is “good” you cannot do harm. There is a degree of
truth in this statement, for if your intent is a positive one, it greatly
decreases the chance of doing harm. So intent is paramount. Yet, if you think
about this, it is rather a “cop out”. A nice neat little package designed to
avoid responsibility. Even with the best of intentions, harm can be done. For
example, we all know the person with the highest intentions, who none the less
causes havoc everywhere they go and every time they do something. They do not
intend this to happen and, in fact, their intention is exactly the opposite but
the outcome is something completely different. The “do-gooder” if you like.
Intention then is of the utmost importance, but this alone does not eliminate
our responsibility to ourselves, our work, and the receivers of our therapy.
I work very consciously. I increasingly know what I am doing
and why along each step of the way. This is working with intent! When I treat,
I treat! When I balance, I balance! I do not mix things together. I have a
clear intention every step of the way. This way I am responsible for what I do.
There is no guesswork and accidents in the Chi-Reflexology approach. All the
positive and negative responses to our treatment, we as therapists have a role
to play in their manifestation, whether we deliberately try to make it happen
or not.
So the
first step is to stop and question yourself. Work out your questions and be
honest with yourself. Own your own decisions. Be conscious, this I believe is
what enlightenment is all about. Being more and more conscious of yourself and
others.
There are
no right and wrong answers – unto thyself be true. What is important is to ask!
As long as you are questioning, you too are safe. It is when you think you have
the answer that you are in trouble.
When I first became a therapist, I was discussing many
questions concerning my role and responsibility in the healing process with a
mature therapist friend of mine. During the discussion, I asked – “What am I
responsible for and what am I not responsible for?” and he replied “You’ve got
it!” I did not appreciate his response
until he explained – “As long as you are asking and in this dilemma, you are
safe. It is when you think you know the answers that you are in trouble!” I
thank him for his insight and wisdom. He helped me greatly with my journey.
The more I
learn, the less I know! The more questions I answer, the more questions arise!
The more I think I know, the more there is to learn! The merry-go-round! The
wheel! Yin and Yang at play! The process of change! The ebb and flow of life!
The cycle of growth!
Once
you have recognised your own intentions in the healing process, then you can
begin to own and accept them. In this way you can begin to work more
consciously, clearly, and mentally and your treatments will be intensified,
while at the same time the “negative” responses will decrease! This is my
experience – the more conscious I am while I work the less chance of doing
harm! Remember, though, this is a process. It is not an end in itself! I am
constantly questioning my intentions and myself. It is a never-ending process.
The
worst scenario is the two extremes – Yin and Yang at play again, and they are –
- The New Age healers who believe that as long as their
intentions are good and their ideals high, whatever happens is not their
doing; and they deny their responsibility by inventing the concept of the
“healing crisis”. Their emphasis is on emotional healing (rather than
wholistic, or even spiritual) for their client’s highest “good”, which
they interpret and define.
- The physical manipulators of human beings, who work only on a
physical level, and are only responsible for the physical healing that
they do. They work mechanically and repetitively and when they get
negative responses, like the first group, they obviate their
responsibility by claiming “it is the healing crisis”.
Both groups are very quick to accept the praise when what they do
has positive responses,
but are very slow in the reverse scenario.
Again, you cannot accept one without the other! It is also interesting that
both groups have come up with the same reasoning and excuse for what happens!
As
to the “Healing crisis” my experience is that it does not exist, unless we as
therapists create it! Perhaps a definition of the “healing crisis” would be
worthwhile at this point. Most would say that it is the body, as a result of
the treatment, rectifying the imbalances in the body and that it takes a day or
two, or perhaps a few to happen.
This
is quite a logical explanation, until you introduce the concept that the body
itself is designed to take care of itself, and further, that the body is the
only thing that can heal. It is not a therapist or his/her therapy that heals!
Just like drugs do not heal! It is the human being that has the potential to
heal. If you truly believe this, then no therapy or therapist is a healer, or
can heal. All that we can do as therapists is to HELP the body to achieve what
it was designed to do in the first place, and that is to heal itself as it sees
fit! It knows best! Not me, nor you! Not the mind, which is but a sophisticated
computer! Not the personality! Not Reflexology! Not any therapy or therapist!
The body knows best! It was designed to take care of itself, all we can do is
help or hinder this most natural of all processes. And my experience is, again,
that most therapists and therapies hinder rather than help this process!
Think
carefully. If the body is designed to take care of itself, it knows what it
needs. It does not need you or me to tell it! Nor to make it heal itself! I am
not a healer! I do no healing! Chi-Reflexology does not heal! It has been
designed to help the body to achieve what it desires, and in whatever way it
desires it, and on all levels of existence – physical, emotional, mental and
spiritual! This is what Chi-Reflexology does – it works with the body, not
against it. It does not make it harder for the body to do its natural job! But
rather is designed to help make that job as easy as possible! Again, intention
is quite clear and specific! No vague concepts of “healing” and “good” here,
but very specific intentions! This is what protects me! And my clients!
My
definition, therefore, of a “healing crisis” is that the therapy (and often the
therapist) actually create it. Further that they are designed to do this! To
force the body to do it’s bidding! Force the mechanical apparatus that is the
body to obey its master! How dare you! What harm is being done in the name of
“good” intentions! What right have you to impose your will on another,
especially in the therapeutic situation! As you can see I get really emotional
about this. It is a subject that is close to my heart! For my basic premise is
that I shall do no harm! And yet I see so many trainings that do not even
attempt to get their students to look at this whole issue! It is totally
ignored. And so, we are producing either mechanical robot therapists who do not
think, or New Age healers who are responsible for the health and wellbeing of
another, without any responsibility whatsoever! To me this is not only immoral,
unethical and unprofessional, but amounts to violation of the human being! Is
this not what the worldwide medical profession
advocate – they are responsible for your
health! They know the answers! They have the cures! Do we really want to follow
in their footsteps? Is this what the natural therapies are actually all about?
I hope not! But I suspect so!
So if a healing
crisis does occur after a treatment, you need to look closely at what you do,
when, and how and your intentions at the time! I have done harm to clients. Any
honest therapist would admit this, at least to himself or herself. But I have
learnt from my mistakes. And I have promised myself that I would not do it
again.
Check
out the Case Histories in my book, and you will see that there are very few if
any healing crises that occur after a Chi-Reflexology treatment. What does
happen is that sometimes clients have strange, weird, out-of-the-ordinary
responses to a treatment or series of treatments. This may be their healing I
grant you, but it is not a crisis! There is no increase in pain or symptoms.
They do not feel worse after the treatment! They do not take days to recover!
And it is unique to them! This is the difference and, to my way of thinking, it
is a significant difference. If a client walks out of my clinic feeling worse
than they walked in, I will never do it again! It is as simple as that! I may
not do any good (and accept this possibility happily), but I definitely will
not do harm! Even short-term harm is harm!
Where do you go
from here? Firstly by looking at all I have written about above, thinking about
it and making your own decisions. And then by developing your sensitivity, while
at the same time constantly furthering your knowledge, along with your ability
to be unemotionally objective and detached. In this way you will also develop your ability to work
increasingly more consciously.
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Unemotional like Mr.Spock |
Now what do
I mean by unemotional objectivity and detachment? Firstly, whenever I get
emotionally involved experience has taught me that I not only do myself harm,
but the receiver. So I have learnt to be unemotional while working, which comes
about by developing my objectivity and detachment from their situation. Part of
the process of doing this involves learning the difference between sympathy and
empathy. Now I have read a number of opposite definitions of these two
concepts. To sympathize with a receiver is to simply share the emotion, while empathize
with a receiver is to understand what they are emotionally experiencing.
Sympathy is a trap as you simply share the emotions, feel what they are
feeling, which not only does you and them no good, but also undermines your
objectivity and ability to remain detached. Once this happens I guarantee that
harm results. To empathize with a receiver, is to understand but not to share,
and in this way you can maintain your objectivity and detachment! This results
in increasing the likelihood of positive, rather than negative responses, for
both the giver and the receiver! An example of this problem is that so many
therapists mention that they feel worse after a treatment as they have “taken
on” the receiver’s stuff! Why? Because they want to heal, and so it is what
they unconsciously want to do, or because they have not even stopped to think
about why this is happening! Part of the reason for this happening is that they
want to share the emotions of the receiver!
Further,
therapists become consciously or unconsciously, emotionally involved and are in
fact attempting to perform “emotional healing”. This is an extremely misleading
and poorly understood concept that also adds to the dilemma. What is emotional
healing? Can an emotion be healed? Think about it. All emotions are natural.
Society, and New Age healers attempt to tell us that there are “good” and “bad”
emotions. The truth is that there is no such thing. It is subjective and
emotive, excuse the pun. To the Chinese all emotions are natural and therefore
cannot and do not need to be healed! It is a ridiculous proposition! So I do
not believe in emotional healing! What actually causes a problem is not an
emotion, but what we do with them. If we suppress and reject an emotion, or
hold on to an emotion once we have experienced it, the Chinese argue that, not
the emotion, but the energy or chi of that suppression/rejection/holding onto,
resides in a particular organ of the body and over time “crushes said organ. So
all organ dis-ease is the result of longer-term suppression, rejection or
“holding” of the energy. So all that needs to happen is to release the energy
or chi that is causing problems for said organ/s. One does not have to revisit
or re-experience the emotion at all. My experience is that “emotional healing”
does not exist, and the process of releasing the energy is a very simple and
profound one. It is again a natural process that does no harm to the body, the
person, or the soul!
One other important aspect of this is to not introduce any
negativity into the equation in any way at all. Too often therapists take
responsibility from their clients and depower them. By telling them what to do,
how to do it, when to do it, etc. By putting them down. What needs to happen is
the reverse – empower clients. How? By letting them know that they are
responsible for their health, and by not introducing anything that might
depower them. It is as simple as that!
“Harm that’s done with
“good” intent beats all the lies you can invent.”
Remember
with all that is said above be gentle with yourself. You are human and will
make mistakes. That is so human! Do not beat yourself up for it, but learn from
it, and move on. Be responsible for what you do and make conscious decisions
about it. And then “Beyond a wholesome
discipline, be gentle with yourself.”
Finally, what follows is a list of questions that are in no
particular order. I deliberately did not sequence them? Why? For many reasons,
and most importantly because all questions you ask yourself are of equal
importance! It is the beginning of working consciously rather than mechanically
and unconsciously.
I have
attempted to cover the whole spectrum of questions relating to reflexology,
Chi-Reflexology and natural therapies. I am sure there are other questions I have
forgotten to include. For this I apologize. This list then are the questions I
have asked and am constantly asking myself. Have I discovered the definitive
answers to each? NO. Am I still
searching, thinking, asking and growing? YES! For this reason I have included
my responses to the question and the final column for you to respond. It is a
quiz! Have fun! Enjoy discovering your own attitudes and opinions. What do you
think? Hopefully making you think! Its purpose!
QUESTION
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My Response
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Your
Response
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Am I a healer?
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NO
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Am I responsible for someone else’s health?
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NO
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Am I responsible for someone else’s healing?
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NO
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Am I biased toward China, everything Chinese and its
philosophy?
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YES
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Do I heal?
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NO
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Do I want to hurt people?
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NO
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Do I want to do harm?
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NO
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Do I want to create happiness?
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NO
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Do I want to help?
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YES
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Do I want what is the highest good for a person?
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YES
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Can I judge what is for a person’s highest good?
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NO
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Who can judge what is your highest good?
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YOU
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Who is the best judge of what is best for you?
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YOU
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Who heals? The Therapist or the Client?
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The Client
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Do I want to empower people?
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YES
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Do I want to depower people?
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NO
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If in doubt, don’t!
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YES
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Do I want to make a difference?
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YES
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Do I tell receivers what to do?
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NO
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Do I answer receiver’s questions?
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YES
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Do each and every one of us have the answers within?
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YES
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Do I allow receivers to decide?
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YES
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Do I give myself over to the process?
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YES
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Do I allow my intuition to guide me?
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YES
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Do I respect & honour the dignity of working with
another?
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YES
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Do I aim to treat what I am asked to treat?
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YES
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Do I aim to balance?
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YES
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Do I allow what needs to happen to happen?
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YES
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Do I try to make things happen?
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NO
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Do I tell people what to do?
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NO
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Do people have to deal with imbalances?
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NO
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QUESTION
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My Response
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Your
Response
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Do I work with the person?
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YES
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Do I work against the person?
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NO
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Do I work wholistically?
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YES
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Do I respect the whole person?
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YES
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Do I make people deal with physical imbalances?
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NO
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Do I make people deal with emotional imbalances?
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NO
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Do I make people deal with mental imbalances?
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NO
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Do I make people deal with spiritual imbalances?
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NO
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Do I do what I am asked and then balance?
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YES
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Do I aim to force the body to respond?
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NO
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Do I cause pain?
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NO?
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Do I aim to ease suffering?
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NO
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Do I share with others?
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YES
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Do I give of myself for the benefit of others?
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YES
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Do I know what is best for another person?
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NO
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Do I wish to end “bad”?
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NO
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Do I wish to create “good”?
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NO
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Do I accept people as they are?
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YES
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Do I sanitize feet before working?
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NO
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Do I use any lotions on the feet at the beginning or
during a treatment?
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NO
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Do I want to change people?
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NO
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Are people always changing?
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YES
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Does good and bad exist in everything?
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YES
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Do I diagnose dis-ease?
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NO
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Do I diagnose energy imbalances?
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YES
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Do I treat energy imbalances by balancing them?
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YES
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Do I look for the underlying energy cause?
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YES
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Do I treat symptoms?
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YES
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Must people deal with their imbalances?
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NO
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What does Chi-Reflexology do?
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Balance
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Is Chi-Reflexology, Chinese Reflexology?
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NO
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Is Chi-Reflexology for everyone?
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NO
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QUESTION
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My Response
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Your
Response
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Do I love what I do?
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YES
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Does what I do “fire my soul”?
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YES
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Is what I do my passion?
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YES
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Do I constantly question myself?
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YES
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Do I perform reflexology (or therapy) I do, mechanically?
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NO
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Is reflexology (or therapy) dead?
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NO
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Is reflexology (or therapy) I do an art?
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YES
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Is reflexology (or therapy) alive and living?
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YES
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Does my intent matter?
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YES
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Does my intent prevent harm?
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NO
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Does my intent reduce the chance of doing harm?
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YES
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Do I treat each individual as unique?
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YES
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Do I do what I do for the benefit of others?
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YES
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Do I do what I do for money?
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NO
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Do I want to share?
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YES
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Does anyone have the answers?
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NO
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Does each person know?
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YES
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Is life interesting?
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YES
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Is life full of contradictions?
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YES
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Is living worth living?
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YES
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Is the journey worthwhile?
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YES
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